Parenting Styles

Published Date Author: , August 3rd, 2009

Since the beginning of the twentieth century, a great deal of researchers and theorists has been studying the issues of parents’ influence on the development of their children. According to E. Maccoby and J. Martin, who were exploring the problems of parent-child interaction, four types of parenting styles can be identified as the following: authoritarian, authoritative, indulgent, and uninvolved.

Authoritarian parenting style (dominating) means strict disciplining and total control of parents over their children. Parents, who choose this child rearing style, set up some severe rules and standards, and want their children to obey them strictly. Dominating parents are usually focusing on bad behaviors of their children and excessively criticizing them. They are always closed to children for communication and never explain the motifs of their orders or decisions.

Authoritative parenting style (moderate) means still creating standards and rules, but parents can play more liberal and democratic roles. Followers of this style believe that it is good for children to learn from their own mistakes. Authoritative parents usually give explanations to their children about established rules or policies, and show much more love, care and attention to their kids.

Permissive parenting style (indulgent) means much more freedom for children. Permissive approach means setting almost no guidelines or limitations and giving many choices for children. Parents, who use this style, are very democratic. They tend to accept their children the way they are and only try not to abuse them.

Rejecting parenting style (neglecting or uninvolved) means total indifference to children. In such cases parents try to minimize the time spent with the children and frequently remain unavailable for them. This style can be chosen by those parents, who are totally concentrated on making career or are drugs/alcohol dependent.

Each of these parenting styles has its advantages and disadvantages. For example, using only authoritarian style can result in developing such traits of child’s character as inability to make decisions or be creative. On the other hand, neglecting a child can completely spoil him or, on the contrary, make him feel like he is unloved, worthless and useless. That is why it is important to choose correct parenting style according to the child’s personality.

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